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Self Confidence

Self Confidence

     Our success correlates with our level of self confidence.  Weight loss success requires that we be or become confident in ourselves and our ability to achieve a desired outcome.  If we go into the process of dropping weight, getting fit, becoming healthier without confidence, our chances of reaching our goal is greatly diminished. 
     Even if we feel confident, there are traps that can take our confidence away if we have linked our self confidence to external factors.  Confidence is an inside job.  It comes from within and how we think and feel about ourselves.  Unfortunately, we have or have not developed much of our confidence on what has been said to us, what has happened to us, and any successes or failures we have had in our lives.  Great news!  We can become confident or more confident today no matter what has happened to us in our past.
     Here are 3 things that can help you develop self confidence or magnify your current level of confidence.  They are simple, but if not careful, easy to continue to give our self confidence away to them.  See where you fit into each of these areas.
     1.   If our confidence is linked to how we look, it will be limited or very low.                       Looks change.  Styles change.  If we are overweight it may be very difficult               to have much self confidence if we operate under this linkage.  Our                           confidence has nothing to do with how we appear in the world.
          We cannot associate our self confidence with our appearance, body size, 
          hair style, clothes we wear, car we drive, house we live in, job we have, or any            other external factor.  If we do, our confidence will ebb and flow with how we              feel about any of these short term and superficial items.
     2.  Stop Associating our confidence with what others think about us
          If our confidence is based on the approval of others, it will be short lived.                  When we are children we seek approval from our parents, our teachers, and              other kids.  Remember how often your were disappointed and let down by                  them.  Our self confidence reached highs and lows as children depending upon            other people's acceptance and approval of us.  This confidence game peaked in
          High School. 
          If we have matured properly, we have realized that what others think about us            has nothing to do with how we feel about ourselves.  Social media is a haven              for low confidence people trying to either belittle someone else to make                      themselves feel better or exaggerate their own importance by always posting              "look at me, look at me, look at me."  Never let our self confidence be at the              mercy of what others think.  Truth is...others aren't thinking about us.  They              are thinking about themselves.   I like to say to myself, "What you think about            me is none of my business.  Try it
      3. Stop Tying our confidence to a result 
          If we are only confident when we succeed, then we will limit our self                          confidence most of the time.  Our confidence should come from the effort and            the journey toward success.  If we lose 10 pounds this month and our                        confidence soars, but next month only lose 1  and we feel defeated and lost,              we are depriving ourselves of true internal confidence.
          Our self confidence must be developed by the work, effort, and development              along the path toward our goal weight.  A bad week or month should not                    decrease our confidence,  it should increase our self awareness.  Being aware            of Why we didn't achieve and making  the proper adjustments is what will                  build true self confidence.  Building self confidence is a long term process.                  Being aware of our feelings and avoiding tying them to the result will create a            dramatic internal fire that will drive us toward a long term result.            
     Michael Jordan, arguably the greatest basketball player of all time, won 6 NBA           titles.  After  winning several, which must have caused elation, he walked off the         court, saw his personal trainer standing at the locker room entrance and pointed         to him saying, "see you in the gym  tomorrow morning".   The result was                   achieved but his confidence was made by the daily efforts and work that lead him       to the victories.  If he'd only been confident after the victory,  he most likely               would never have gotten there.
     We must learn to be confident at all times and reflective of our weaknesses and failed events.  Failure is not a person, it is an event.  A Failed event should never rob us of our  true self confidence.  When we don't succeed, we reflect, we become aware, we make new  plans, and we move forward... WITH CONFIDENCE!!
Dr. Gregory Oliver Dr. Gregory Oliver has practiced family medicine for 35 years. He has assisted thousands of patients to become healthier and combat illness and disease. He believes that prevention of disease is the key to a long and active life. In recent years, Dr. Oliver has focused on prevention of disease and weight reduction to achieve optimal health. The disease of Obesity and Overweight Syndrome is responsible for so many other medical disorders and a shorter life, and can be treated, managed, and put into remission with focus on 5 key treatment areas. Dr. Oliver is glad to provide weekly information to help you improve your health.

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